India – young and old

Few days back i was participating in a TV talk show – the topic was ‘ whether youngsters in India respect elder’s advice or not?’

here are some of my views …

who is an elder and who is younger?

can we just judge by age ? is it right?

if so  are we then contradicting Indian history and philosophies which have always been focusing on the point that age doesn’t makes one younger or elder. On the other hand experience makes a person  mature.

Our nation never hesitated in accepting youngsters views – we had leaders like Shivaji and Bhagath Singh,Viveknanda  on one hand and  mahathma gandhi, Patel,Netaji on the other.

Generation gap was not happening in India then, why now?

I feel  the best aspect of our Indian culture is the repeated idea that’s been emphasized on one single point and that is … ” Don’t judge ”

who are we to judge others? let’s live and try to understand ourselves first.

and the other important issue ‘ letting go of ego’

but today our society especially crowded with people who boast themselves as ” culture protectors of India”  are too judgmental on  everything …

we are so worried about women’s dress code  and youngsters not touching the feet of elders as a mark of respect … but we are totally not concerned about really bigger issues  that’s not only affecting the next generation but the elders as well .

What are we providing for the gen next? a polluted,corrupted,valueless society?  and in turn  demanding respect from younger people ?

how is this logically correct?

politicians watch pornographic clips in parliament


youngsters are beaten up when they go to pubs !

Respect doesn’t comes by demand it comes from your acts – that’s how i feel.

many parents feel that  in today’s world kids don’t listen to elder’s views,

point is listening doesn’t matters doing matters and following matters

the problem lies on both side  elders fail to  understand  youngsters and like wise kids too are indifferent towards elders.

for any relationship to thrive there must be love,trust and maturity, this applies to parents and kids too.

The recent incident that shocked Chennai – a school boy brutally murdering a teacher  is an alarming result of a big problem that’s growing in our society.

Thought this incident is a specific one and it cannot be generalized and we cannot draw any generalized conclusion from this brutal act.

Yet few question does arises

few blame the teacher’s strictness and today’s stress full education system

few blame the kids -they are violent and inhuman

few blame the parents

but what can we achieve by blame game?


this act is a crime no doubt about it

but the killer being a school kid and the victim a school teacher is what all that matters

the simplest straight forward  reason is ‘lack of values’ – not only among kids is a fact that must be understood here, for crime rate in India is alarmingly high

there is no blaming here, the kid has lost his values – responsibility for this act is on society – we can’t pinpoint one single person for this.

this is just an example ,

our education teaches getting 100% marks

kids learn the value of money

kids learn how important quotas are

so amid all these humanity and self respect often gets missed

today the kids IQ levels have risen so high, molding it positively or otherwise depends on one’s own survival skills and personal values 

kids are young people with their own mind and individuality we must realize this , so forcing our views on them won’t help much.

What happens when we forcefully change a new generation’s thought?

Hitler when he gained administrative powers in Germany, closed all the youth clubs and turned them into his brainwash camps for young people.. the result was the Nazi army!

While in India we had real leaders like Gandhi ji, Bhagath Singh and Vivekananda who turned youths to positive human power. So it all depends on what we believe and do

sharing our experiences would be of much help to the next generation rather than boring them with advice.

you change … the world will change, this applies to elders and youngsters too.

Martyr’s Insult

Today all the media flashed the news of  the neglect of 3 police men who were killed in a powerful landmine blast triggered by the Maoists near Kirandul in Dantewada on Sunday night, who’s coffins were ferried in a garbage truck…

government officials give lame excuses, defending themselves as usual…

so be it…

but this unfortunate incident is an example of a bigger problem thats evolving in our society, especialy in our country…

are we becoming inhuman?

are we slowly loosing faith in values?

don’t we have any respect for the people who sacrifice their lives for our well-being?

these haunting questions reminds me of a similar first person experience  narrated by my grand dad,

It was the days of India’s independence and he was a second  leftenant  in the Indian national army and personal translator of Netaji.

My grand dad was taken as a war prisoner and was kept in kolkata prison. Latter he was released , on that day when he and his fellow war prisoners went around the city, people every where greeted them with respect, and  the shop keepers refused to take money from them, when my grand dad insisted against this, a shop keeper had said’ na dada who paab ho’ meaning ‘ no brother its sin to take money from freedom fighters’

so coming back to today’s issue… where are we heading ?

don’t we owe anything to the martyr’s of this country? to those who have faced death for public safety?

doesn’t our government needs to wake up to such issues?

will we learn from our past?

செய்தியே சுவாசமாய்

செய்தியே சுவாசமாய் – செய்தியாளர்கள் பற்றிய புத்தகம்

செய்தியே சுவாசமாய் – செய்தியாளர்கள் பற்றிய புத்தகம்- k.abirami

புத்கத்தில் இருந்து ஒரு துளி…

புகைப்படம் எடுக்க நான் மிகவும் கஷ்ட்டப்படும் நேரம், கலவரம் முடிந்த பின் நிலவும் நேரந்தான். நான் மிகவும் மனக் கட்டுப்பாடோடுதான் இருக்கிறேன். மனதளவில் பாதிக்கப்படாமல் இருக்க முயற்சிக்கிறேன். ஆனால் அது மிகக்கடினம்.நாங்கள் இங்கு காணும் காட்சிகள் அவ்வளவு கொடுமையானவை. ஒருமுறை கலவரதிற்குப்பின்

ஒரு பெண் கையில் ஒரு குழந்தையுடன் கதறிக் கொண்டிருந்தார். அக்குழந்தையின் தாய் தந்தை கலவரத்தில் கொலை செய்யப்பட்டிருந்தனர்.என்னிடம் அப்பெண் இவளை வைத்துக்கொண்டு நான் என்ன செய்வேன் ? எனக் கூறி அழுதாள்.

எனக்கு மிகவும் வேதனையாக இருந்தது.

என்னால் நிம்மதியாக உறங்க முடியாது , நான் ஓட வேண்டும், ஓடிக்கொண்டே இருக்க வேண்டும்,

குழந்தையை கண்ட அன்றுதான் மனம் தளர்ந்தேன்.

ஆனாலும் அப்பெண்ணையும் குழந்தையையும் படம் எடுக்க மறக்கவில்லை. இப்படி ஒரே ஒரு செய்திக்கே மனம் தளர்ந்தால் தொடர்ந்து பணிபுரிய முடியாது. இதுபோன்ற நூற்றுக்கணக்கான சம்பவங்கள் ,,,, அவை கொடுமையானவை. சகிக்க முடியாதவை, என்னால் என் உண்மையான பெயரைக்கூட வெளியிட முடியாது. வீடிற்கு செல்ல முடியாது.  – அல்கேறிய கலவரத்தில்அடிபட்ட ஒரு பத்திரிக்கையாளரின் பேட்டி.

Irony of Jammu’s legendary name…

every day we hear and read so many terror attacks in Jammu &kashmir,

recent sopore killings and riots…

and to the shooting of manzoor…

how long is this gonna go?

why aren’t we concerned? Have we gone numb to our fellow citizen’s suffering

is it bcos.. we are far away?

is it bcos we are  safe and @peace ?

is it bcos we have our own troubles?

The Wikipedia states….

According to legend, Jammu was founded by Raja Jamboolochan in the 14th century BC. During one of his hunting campaigns he reached the Tawi River where he saw a goat and a lion drinking water at the same place. The king was impressed and decided to set up a town after his name, Jamboo. With the passage of time, the name was corrupted and became “Jammu”.

At times i feel that India & Pakisthan  are just using Jammu – Kashimr as a political / communal scape goat…

In this issue we have to blame ourselves rather than politicians…

I feel India – the common people need to be aware of Kashmir’s pain.

this is pure imagination…

once upon a time not so long ago

there was this beautiful country,,, with lots of wealth, natural resources and creative people

the people were so human and kind that they had no differences

each person was so talented that they invented lots of things….

as years passed  by few among the people had an idea, they wanted more…

they disliked sharing and being equal…

so they formed a group and called themselves superior

they learnt to lie, cheat and harm others

then they controlled the rest of the people…

slowly the others formed groups… they in-turn tried to boss other groups calling themselves superior…

so this went on like a chain reaction.. till all the people were in some group or another…

these groups fought with in themselves…

one day a new group came from another country…

people of this country were so engrossed in their differences that they didn’t even bother about the new comers

the new comers were sellers… they sold some interesting stuff…

slowly they understood the fights between the groups, they were clever , so they used these fights and one day they became the leaders and controlled all other groups,

the new comers bossed for a very loooong time

the native groups lost all control

every one starved, looted

only then few native groups understood that the group-ism was killing them.. so they gathered all the groups and fought against the new comers…

the fight went on for a while and finally the new comers quit bossing & they left

immediately the united people reverted back to their earlier groups and differences.

they fought among themseleves once again and killed those who tried to make peace among them…

there were more groups now… and each group had its own leader..

each leader wanted more .. power & money…

so the leaders united secretly and looted the groups.

finaly the groups had nothing left so they protested  against the leaders and united together.

all groups were banned and they lived happily ever after .